There have been many a post recently on why you should show your true colours on your Instagram, why you snapping your new ABH palette is making others feel bad, and why your life is shit and fake because it differs to Audrey’s down the street. And to be blunt, I am sick to the back teeth of it. Why? Well, lemme tell you why.
Because I won’t censor myself or my lifestyle because it makes you feel bad that you earn £100 a month less than me. I won’t stop being proud of owning my own home just because you don’t, and I sure as shit won’t stop taking a perfectly shot flat lays just because that’s not actually what my life is like. I don’t want to see relatable shots on my Instagram feed, I want to see GOALS. I want to see a picture that inspires me, that transports me somewhere else, that makes me green with envy over how perfect it is, and a picture that makes me brush the bread crumbs off my pyjama top and be CREATIVE.
Let’s be honest, no one wants to see a picture of me on a Sunday with my stained pyjama top covered in bread crumbs and balsamic vinegar dribbling down my chin. No, people want to see beautiful, inspiring and creative shots. I want to see the best of your creativity, the best you have to offer me and I want to see it NOW. I don’t follow you to see pictures of your unwashed dishes and dusty sideboards, I can see that in my own house thanks very much, I follow you to see that perfect mountainside picture, the elegant Sunday morning chill flat lay, and those hella stunning new shoes you just bought (even if you have to live off beans and toast for the next month).
The world of reality has its limits, the world of creativity is BOUNDLESS
Then it moves on to the whole should you be ashamed of what you have, and have achieved, just so it doesn’t make someone else feel shitty? Is that really your problem? Yes, we should all be socially conscious when it comes to posting online and by that I mean that we should think about what we say, don’t be a dick and if you wouldn’t say it in real life then don’t tweet it. However, if I go out and buy a £500 handbag why can’t I Instagram it? Why can’t I be proud of the hard work I’ve done to get that bag? Why am I no longer relatable just because I can afford Tom Ford and Chanel (I can’t FYI), and why am I no longer part of the club just because I have a mortgage?
I see so many posts and tweets about how bloggers make others feel bad for not being able to do or buy the same things, but the blogger has said nothing to that effect, it’s the PERSON who has put those emotions on themselves – so why should the blogger be hounded and made to feel horrible? Why should they question if they are relatable just because they were able to buy a house at 24? Why should Audrey feel bad just because she can afford 5 Chanel handbags in a month? Why should any of us be made to feel bad and un-relatable just because we want to share the best of our lives in a perfectly themed Instagram flat lay?
I am relatable with my words and personality, but I want my social media to be the best I have to offer, I want those snaps I share to be the best ones I can get and I want them to be creative, inspiring and god damn beautiful.
This possibly makes no sense what so ever, but I am just tired of seeing people promoting themselves as relatable like the rest of us are aliens with 7 heads. Tired of being told what I should be sharing on social media to make others feel better. Tired of having to second guess whether this Instagram picture of my lips looking full and plump is going to make thin lipped people bad FFS.
Instead of blaming people and feeling better than others because you’re relatable we should be looking at the deeper issues and mindsets. Being relatable has nothing to do with your Instagram feed – everyone is relatable to someone at the end of the day.
What do you think about the whole ‘people shouldn’t show their #goals style photos on social media?